Tuesday, March 3, 2009
Suicide
Why is suicide so frowned upon? I don't feel it should be seen as a bad thing anymore. Is it so wrong to end this life to see what is in another one? I think suicide can be a beautiful thing. Especially when done for love. What better way to show your loyalty and complete love than to take your life in that persons name. I don't feel people should see suicide as just death, but a way to finally be free. A way to finally fly. A statement of how much this world rapes and torments and kills the spirit, contorts the images of love and how it should be. I feel it is courageous to take your life before that happens. Before you become like everyone else. That would be an unfortunate death, to be put with everyone else. No standing out, no impression made, no reason to be thought of. Just blending in, easily forgotten, easily overlooked. How horrible a death that should be. Suicide seems to be a lot of things, but if anything it should be an answer to the monotony, an answer to the sameness.
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Oh come on!?
My mother tried to commit suicide twice while I was growing up, I was devastated because I could not understand why would she do that.
I thought that it was extremely
selfish of her part because if she would've succeeded we were probably gone to a foster home or something like that or worse especially because we had no immediate family.
I understand she wanted to end her suffering but how about the suffering of 3 children.
I really don't agree with you... In my humble opinion I believe suicide its a coward thing to do, why end it all? why not suck it up put up with the pain and learn... grow as a human being and experience everything that life has to offer you.
We are all entitled to have an opinion but I just don't agree with yours!
No I'm not upset..but you cannot possibly think like this..romantic suicide? Ever met the family whose son, daughter, sister, brother, mother, father or whoever took his/her life?? No..it's far from a "beautiful thing"...
I don't remember being rude, but If you think I was I shall keep the comments for myself next time..
Wish you well, A.
who is getting upset? I am simply giving you my point of view.. Like I said before ,we are all entitled to have an opinion and I respect yours but I don't necessary have to agree... I am sorry if that sounds rude to you, that was not my intention. You shared your point of view I shared mine, simply as that.
I wasn't offended it's just you take the fact that I don't agree too personally. I expressed my opinion and then I was called rude...and I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. You have the right to write what ever you want and I have the right to disagree.
Sure, lets move on
Like the others I have to disagree... dying is easy, living is hard. No one should ever take the easy way out.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VH9CxM6o-eI&feature=related
Not that I agree with suicide. Personally I believe there is sufficient love and concern on this planet to get us all where we need to go. It takes time to connect, but it is there. My two cents.
However, I don't walk everyone else's life and pain. I've seen some hell turned to good life in others.
Augustine started his work of 13 years of writing contemplating suicide being right/wrong/neutral. If I may give my best synopsis of his conclusion....
We are all headed to death. On their way to dying, they did.
Just a few thoughts.
Suicide is not a cowardly act. It takes a lot of courage and guts to go through the motions of taking one's life. Success is not guaranteed. Suicide is not a selfish act, either. It is the act of a person in deep emotional pain and mental illness. There may be a wee fraction of people who do it to gain sympathy and control over a person's life, but they are not in the majority and should not be the focus of such a serious discussion.
It takes enormous inner coaxing to get to the point where a person decides to end it all. It is easy for those on the outside of such emotional pain and hopelessness to point the finger of blame. It's cowardly to blame the victim (and their friends and family) rather than for those left behind to face the reality that they just couldn't help the victim. It's difficult to experience a loss by way of suicide. It's difficult to admit you had no control over the situation no matter how you ranted begged and pleaded.
It is normal to feel some guilt or anger, but it does not give anyone the right to ridicule those who could not pull themselves back from the brink of their dispair or unhappiness. Pointing the finger of ridicule at the victime and blaming them for their demise or failure to succeed at their suicide attempt, is useless and teaches or resolves nothing nor does it provide any opportunity to learn from the situation.
We all have strengths and weaknesses. What you and I may excel in, another cannot bare it for long. Depression is a serious mental illness that no one person can lick alone. We, as observers, family, friends and lovers, cannot pull a person from that brink if they are not able to grasp the rope thrown to them. Such darkness is an emotional blinding where there is no sight or feeling beyond the pain of that moment.
It shows a lack of understanding and compassion to say that a person who commits or attempts suicide is selfish and deserving of fire and brimestone or ridicule or contempt. The fate if the suicider is solely God's decision. It is His soul. His child. On Earth we are but caretakers, but we cannot force someone to not feel their pain and sorrow. Telling them they are this or that because of their inability to cope with their situation(s) will not change their minds nor alter their perception. Impatience, ridicule and other cruelty will push them closer to the edge. We can but offer soft words of kindness and love and a hug but we cannot be guaranteed a reversal of intent. We can offer them our support--what they will allow--our prayers and we can provide to ourselves...Self-forgiveness because, yes, we will be angry, confused, bitter and hurt, but we must never blame ourselves or the suicider.
What I wrote about Suicide which I was trying to explain to someone my reasons. Of course, I was just contemplating it only at the time. I'm still here. Not due to lack of courage, but I just thought I'd make sure that is what I really wanted. I tried before when I was 13, but failed. When and if I decide to do it again. I won't fail again. So again. Here was my type of letter:
Suicide - The act or an instance of intentionally killing oneself.
Why? That is usually the question people ask regarding such an act. Not understanding the true nature of such a decision. I guess I can understand some sense of their distress, because the one thing on their mind is… Could I have done something to prevent it? The answer is really NO, and I guess that hurts them.
It’s not the world in which I desire to live anymore. What is there to live for? And don’t give me the basic BULLSHIT answers that everyone seems to come up with. To watch the Sun Rise, to watch children play, go to a movie, out to dinner, your favorite sporting event. COME ON, if that’s all you have to live for, then you are more delusional than me.
Give me DEPTH, TRUE MEANING, give me SUBSTANCE, something REAL. I’m tired of BULLSHIT. If you think the life that I currently live now would keep me from dieing, then you are mistaken. You don’t, nor does anyone else have an answer for me, because you don’t even really know why you yourself, has the desire to live, except for fear of death and the unknown.
Am I afraid? NO
Do I think I will go to Hell? NO
What is so wrong with wanting to exit out early? What? Is it because the people I leave behind might be hurt by such a decision? How can I explain myself? How can I make them feel better about THEMSELVES so I can just go and do what I need to do for me? I’m tired and ready to go home. I’ve been tired a long time and I feel that now I am ready. It’s just finding the way to exit gracefully and letting those around know, that no matter what, it’s not their fault, it’s just how it is, MY DECISION.
I’m not afraid of death anymore. I appreciate it.
That was deep...heartfelt...It gives me insight into the mind of one who is considering suicide or, at the very least, approaching that decision. As I have had similar thoughts, I can relate to such reasonings and the accompanying emotional pain and anger (for me it was anger). anonymous, I really appreciate your sharing your letter, and am glad you are still with us and wish the very best for you in the years to come...Penny aka Sweet Little Angel.
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